After writing the blog post yesterday about desires a question popped into my mind; how many times should you try something before you decide it’s not for you? But I want to start in another end. How come I think starting a blog was something I’ve always wanted.
If I feel this good the day after there must be some truth to the desire to write a blog—i.e. it resonates with my soul. That doesn’t have to be the case forever, but today it resonates. I love analyzing how I feel and why I feel it, and I think it’s good to know how you work. Why do you have this specific desire, what is it that you liked when you tested out your desire?
For me it boils down to 1) Writing, it’s super fun 😀 ; 2) Being authentic to myself and others, I get to know myself better but I also feel I connect better with my readers (I don’t know if I actually do that though :P); and 3) Sharing a secret about myself few know about, I get filled with adrenaline doing this, it’s fun and I push myself out of my comfort zone, it’s probably that, pushing myself outside the comfort zone. Cool 😀 I think I just discovered a hidden desire. Sure I knew I want to improve myself and such, but mostly to become an awesome person, but I didn’t know I actually liked the thrill of stepping outside the comfort zone. Is this always the case?
I started thinking more about my desires I’ve tried. Exercise is one of them. I used to hate it and was really bad at running. When I started I could only run 1km (that’s about 0.6 miles) then I had to stop to catch my breath. I wanted to start exercising because it was healthy, would bring more energy to my life (I used to feel tired, still do though :P), and I wanted to get stronger and better cardio.
Today I still want to get stronger and better my cardio, but the main reason I exercise today is because it’s fun. I feel empowered by lifting heavy weights (not that heavy yet :P). When I run I feel free and refreshed after the exercise, usually for the rest of the day. Not exactly the reasons I began exercising for. My point is that you never know if you will like something until you try it and you never know in advance why you like it. Some things stick (like getting stronger), but I discovered the hidden desires for exercising.
Yesterday I wrote about having to test it once to see if you like it—I don’t think I actually wrote once, but that was my idea when writing. Today I’m going to dismiss that a bit. If I only would’ve tested to exercise once I wouldn’t have thought it was fun and refreshing. It took some time for me to learn to like it. Feeling empowered by weight lifting was almost instantaneous, whereas feeling free when I run took about a year. That also shows that you evolve during time and even if you’ve been at it for a year you can actually discover something new if you’re open to it.
What if you have some food that you don’t like? Should you try it once or try it for a year hating it every day? Or what if you to start drawing? Try it once or try it for a year? I’d say that depends on you as a person, some things I try for longer and it’s possible that you’ll actually like everything if you try it enough (even cleaning your apartment, I think that’s kinda fun at least :P).
So what’s the point? If this is true—I’m only speculating—it doesn’t really matter what you try. True and not true, there are things that are fun and then there are things you’re passioned about. I wouldn’t say exercise is one of my passions, although it’s damn close to being one. The reason I want to try out new desires is to get to know myself better; to find things I’m passionate about and focus on them in the moment; and getting more pleasure overall throughout my day. The first time I noticed it was a great idea to start liking new things that I didn’t like was in 8th grade, that’s when I got used to and actually started to like how pepper tasted.
Since then I’ve started learning to like things I strongly disliked. Such as nuts, especially peanuts. I used to get a nausea and almost regurgitate just by the smell of peanuts. But because I found that learning to eat vegetables actually made the food taste richer I decided to learn to eat nuts, which I have by now, although it took years. So here I actually ate nuts for years—albeit not every day, in fact very seldom—when I hated it. So I’m not really sure if you should continue with a desire even if you dislike it or not. Probably not, I did this just because I had tried it with so much other food and it was always a payoff, so I felt 100% certain it wouldn’t regret it. The desire here would be to eat rich-tasting food.
Other things I quit with way faster. If I’m playing a game that I don’t enjoy I often just quit playing it right then and there. If I played 30 minutes or 30 hours (of a 90 hours long) game doesn’t really matter. Some things (games) are only fun for a while. And I don’t feel obligated to finish that 90 hour game just because I thought the 30 first hours were great. There are so many other games that I can try so why learn to like the game when I can switch game. I really liked that metaphor :P. There are some many things to try out there that if you have to learn to like it there’s probably something more interesting to do that you’re actually passionate about.
What things should you keep on doing, which things should you try once or thrice? I don’t really know, I have to think about this myself…
Also please comment here if you agree or disagree and why, I want to hear your ideas and thoughts 😀
Have a nice day! 😀
*Not so hungry anymore :P*